May 20, 2009

Grow!


The GROW Model
Coaching team members to improve performance
One key role of any leader is to coach team members to achieve their best.

As "coach", you will typically help your team members to solve problems, make better decisions, learn new skills or otherwise progress in their role or career.
Whilst some leaders are fortunate enough to get formal training as coaches, many are not.

They have to develop coaching skills for themselves.
Now this may sound daunting.
But if you arm yourself with some of proven techniques, find opportunities to practice and learn to trust your instincts, you can become a better coach, and so enhance your team's performance.
One proven approach that helps with this it the GROW model.
GROW is an acronym standing for
Goal -
Current Reality -
Options -
Will.
The model is a simple yet powerful framework for structuring a coaching session.
A useful metaphor for the GROW model is the plan you might make for an important journey. First, you start with a the map:
With this, you help your team member decide where they are going (their Goal) and establish where they currently are (their Current Reality).
Then you explore various ways (the Options) of making the journey.
In the final step, establishing the Will,
you ensure your team member is committed to making the journey and is prepared for the conditions and obstacles they may meet on their way.
Tip 1: Know Your Own RoleIn its traditional application, the GROW model assumes that the coach is not an expert in the "client's" situation, and therefore must act as an objective facilitator, helping the client select the best options and not offering advice or direction.
However, when a leader coaches his or her team members, other dynamics are in play:
As a leader you will usually have some expert knowledge to offer (see our article on expert power.)
Also, it's your job to guide the selection of options which are best for your organization, and veto options that are harmful.
How to Use the Tool:
Use the following steps to structure a coaching session:
Establish the Goal:
First, with your team member, you must define and agree the goal or outcome to be achieved. You should help your team member define a goal that is specific, measurable and realistic.
In doing this, it is useful to ask questions like:
"How will you know that you have achieved that goal?"

"How will you know the problem is solved?"
Examine Current Reality:
Next, ask your team member to describe their Current Reality.
This is a very important step:
Too often, people try to solve a problem without fully considering their starting point, and often they are missing some of the information they need to solve the problem effectively.
As the team member tells you about his or her Current Reality,
the solution may start to emerge.
Useful coaching questions include:
"What is happening now?"
"What, who, when, how often"
"What is the effect or result of that?"
Explore the Options:
Once you and your team member have explored the Current Reality, it's time to explore what is possible - meaning, all the many possible options you have for solving the problem.
Help your team member generate as many good options as possible, and discuss these. By all means, offer your own suggestions.
But let your team member offer his or hers first, and let him or her do most of the talking. Typical questions used to establish the options are:
"What else could you do?"
"What if this or that constraint were removed?
"What are the benefits and downsides of each option?"
"What factors will you use to weigh up the options?
Establish the Will:
By examining Current Reality and exploring the Options, your team member will now have a good idea of how he or she can achieve their Goal.
That's great - but in itself, this may not be enough!
So your final step as coach is to get you team member to commit to specific action. In so doing, you will help the team member establish his or her will and motivation.
Useful questions:
"So what will you do now . and when?
"What could stop you moving forward?"
"And how will you overcome it?"
"Will this address your goal?"
"How likely is this option to succeed?"
"What else will you do?"
Tip 2:
Practice by Coaching YourselfA great way to practice using the model is to address your own challenges and issues.
When you are 'stuck' with something, you can use the technique to coach yourself.
By practicing on your own challenges and issues, you will learn how to ask the most helpful questions.
Write down some stock questions as prompts for future coaching sessions.
Tip 3:
Ask Great Questions.
and Listen Well
The two most important skills for a coach are the ability to ask good questions, and effective listening.
Don't ask closed questions:
"Did that cause a problem?"
Do ask open ones:
"What affect did that have?
" Be prepared with a list of questions to for each stage of the G-R-O-W process.
Listen well and let your "client" do most of the talking.
Remember that silence is valuable thinking time:
You don't always have to fill silence with WORDS

May 13, 2009

Oven Baked Chicken Parmesan

Ingredients:
4 bonesless, skinless chicken breast halves
(about 1 1/4)
1 egg, slightly beaten
3/4 cup Italian seasoned dry bread crumbs
1 jar Ragu Old World Style Pasta Sauce
1 cup Mozzarella Cheese
Preheat oven to 400F. Dip Chicken in egg, then bread crumbs,
coating well in 13 X 9 inch glass baking dish,
arrange chicken.
Bake uncovered 20 minutes
Pour Pasta Sauce over chicken, then top with cheese,
bake an additional 10 minutes
or until chicken is no longer pink.
Serve, if desired with hot cooked Pasta...
SO EZ...and Delicious!

May 12, 2009

Listen


Sunday evening I was laying on the couch and Xavior came over to me and said "Happy Mother's day, Angel, I love you!"...that made me the happiest mother in the world!

May 11, 2009

The best teacher...


no-one teaches you... more than a child...you see things in your children you like...take credit...you see things you don't like...take self inventory...they only mirror what you are doing....beautiful isn't he?

May 7, 2009

Happy Mother's Day...You are Appreciated!

THE NEXT SURVIVOR SERIES
Six married men will be dropped on an island with one car and 3 kids each for six weeks. Each kid will play two sports and either take music or dance classes.
There is no fast food.
Each man must take care of his 3 kids;
keep his assigned house clean, correct all homework, and complete science projects, cook, do laundry, and pay a list of 'pretend' bills with not enough money.
In addition, each man will have to budget in money for groceries each week.
Each man must remember the birthdays of all their friends and relatives, and send cards out on time--no emailing.
Each man must also take each child to a doctor's appointment, a dentist appointment and a haircut appointment.
He must make one unscheduled and inconvenient visit per child to the Urgent Care.
He must also make cookies or cupcakes for a social function.
Each man will be responsible for decorating his own assigned house, planting flowers outside and keeping it presentable at all times.
The men will only have access to television when the kids are asleep and all chores are done. The men must shave their legs, wear makeup daily, adorn himself with jewelry, wear uncomfortable yet stylish shoes, keep fingernails polished and eyebrows groomed.
During one of the six weeks, the men will have to endure severe abdominal cramps, back aches, and have extreme, unexplained mood swings but never once complain or slow down from other duties.
They must attend weekly school meetings, church, and find time at least once to spend the afternoon at the park or a similar setting.
They will need to read a book to the kids each night and in the morning, feed them, dress them, brush their teeth and comb their hair by 7:00 am.
A test will be given at the end of the six weeks, and each father will be required to know all of the following information:
each child's birthday, height, weight,shoe size, clothes size and doctor's name.
Also the child's weight at birth, length, time of birth, and length of labor, each child's favorite color, middle name, favorite snack, favorite song, favorite drink, favorite toy, biggest fear and what they want to be when they grow up.
Oh yes, did I mention that they have to work a 40 Hour/Week job in addition to these few tasks and feed the dog, oops got to keep that water bowl filled!?
The kids vote them off the island based on performance.
The last man wins only if...he still has enough energy to be intimate with his spouse at a moment's notice.
If the last man does win, he can play the game over and over and over again for the next 18-25 years eventually earning the right
To be called Mother!

May 6, 2009

His Touch

And besought Him that they might only touch the hem of His garment: and as many as touched were made perfectly whole. Matthew 14:36
And He laid His hand on her: and immediately she was made straight, and glorified God (Luke 13:13)

Jesus touched the infirmed (weak of mind, will or character) woman.
There's a place in God where the Lord will touch you and provide intimacy in your life when you're not getting it from other places.
You may find yourself like the woman at the well, who sought physical gratification.
If you seek only the physical when you really need intimacy, what you end up getting is simply sex.

Sex is a poor substitute for intimacy. It's nice with intimacy, but when it is substituted for intimacy, it's frustrating.
Jesus knew this woman.
He was the only one who truly knew her.
He touched her and healed her.
He unleashed her potential that had been bound for 18 years.
You can accomplish everything once you have been called to Jesus.
From that moment on you became INVINCIBLE.
However, most likely your words have hindered you. Often we are snared by the words in our own mouth.
The enemy would love to destroy you with your own words.
Satan has turned your back against you.
He will use your strength against you.
Many of you have beat yourself down with the power of your own words.
You have twisted your own back.
The enemy worked you agains yourself until you saw yourself as crippled.
Reverse his plan.
If you had enough force to bend yourself, you've got enough force to straighten yourself back up again.
The Lord told this woman the truth about herself.
He told her that she was loosed and set free.
He saw the truth despite what everyone else saw.
She was important.
T.D. Jakes/Hope For Every Moment pg. 117

May 4, 2009

Prayer for Employment

In this time of 'economic challenge'... I am so thankful to have a career that I enjoy...
but if Your looking for WORK...here is a prayer to guide you along...
Heavenly Father,

Please sustain my spirit as I search for new and meaningful work.
You have blessed me with a healthy body and a keen mind for which I am grateful. I ask that you open my path as I seek employment that will allow me to support my family and myself while serving others and your divine purpose.
In gratitude and grace, Amen.
- Rev. Victor Fuhrman

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