Girl...You are BEAUTIFUL!..but don't be stupid...

You Deserve RESPECT, TRUTH, LOVE, & Joy.... A Man who can be HONEST and REAL...(they do exist).........Why settle for a LIAR? & a STD?

love you sissy ~angel

How to be Nice!

You've been told to be nice since you were a child, but what exactly does it mean to not be mean? "Nice" is a vague term to put it. If your parents never gave you the break-down, here it is.

Smile.

A smile will let people know that you are pleasant and inviting. If you smile at someone, look them in the eye. For the most part, if you smile at someone, they won't do anything but smile back. If they don't, then maybe they are just having a bad day. It is up to you to set the mood of the encounter. Make it happy by being the first to smile. Normally, making faces or moody looks at someone is not nice.

Say hello.

When you're walking past someone, even a stranger, try to acknowledge their presence with simple "hello" or "hi" or even just a wave or a nod in their direction.
Ask people how they are doing. Take the time to ask someone how things are going in their lives, without being nosy or intrusive. If they seem resistant to talking, just let them know that you're always around to talk to, and that you want them to be alright.

Be a good listener. Listen when other people are talking to you. It isn't nice to just ignore other peoples' opinions and stories. If you find that someone is becoming rude or pushy, acknowledge their opinion, issue a compliment ("Having your own set of values and beliefs is pretty admirable") and excuse yourself politely ("I'm sorry, I've got to go get the groceries so I can meet my husband/wife when they get home.").
Be courteous. Always say "please," "thank you" and "you're welcome." You can also address people by sir or ma'am, depending on the occasion. Be patient, observant, and considerate. Treat people with respect. Even if you don't particularly like someone at first, they could end up being a really interesting and kind person.

Don't forget "Excuse me" instead of "MOVE!".

Remember: People aren't dogs or the ground you spit on.

Be positive. Don't be negative or critical. Keep looking for the positive in any given situation.Cheer them up.
Be humble. The key to being nice is remembering that you are not "better" than someone else. You're an individual, but everybody has their struggles, and being nice to one another makes life better for everyone.
Offer to help. If you see someone struggling or doing anything, offer to help, even doing something as simple as carrying a bag of groceries, or hold the door for someone. You can also be nice to the community and the world by volunteering.
Be sincere. Don't be nice as a means to an end. If you just want to be nice so that you can gain preferential treatment, it's quite the opposite of being nice-it's deceptive, shallow and cruel.

Be nice because you want to look back on your life and know that you were a nice person, no matter what.

He who angers you conquers you.

Blended LOVE/Families...step

GUIDELINES FOR STEPFAMILIES
It is very helpful if a stepfamily can start out in neutral territory like moving into their own house or apartment.

*Avoid moving into one of the spouses homes if it was the biological families home first.
*Get in the habit of having a weekly family meeting. Allow each member of the family to speak freely on issues.

*Use the family meetings to plan vacations and fun.

*Accept influence from the children and give them a feeling of control by allowing them some say so in family decisions.
*A healthy couple relationship is a must for a stepfamily to exist.

***The couple's relationship should come first with the children a very close second.***

*A strong adult relationship can protect the children from another family loss and it can provide the children with a positive model of what a good marriage looks like.
Have realistic expectations.

The expectation of "instant love" between stepparents and stepchildren can lead to disappointment and many difficulties.

*Let the relationships develop slowly over time.

*Don't force relationships.

*Allow them to evolve with patience and understanding.
*Understand that there will be loyalty issues.

*Since children are part of two biological parents, they usually have very strong pulls to both of their natural parents.

*These divided loyalties make is difficult for children to relate comfortably to all of the parental adults in their lives.

*Understand that rejection of a stepparent might not have anything to do with the personal characteristics of the stepparent.

*As the children and adults learn that they can care for more that two parental adults, then the loyalty issues and conflicts can diminish and the step-relationships can improve.
*Work at not getting the children caught in the middle of ex-spouses issues.

*Do your best to maintain a courteous relationship for the well-being of the children.
*Create new family patterns and traditions.
*Show respect for your stepchildren. Let the biological parent do most of the discipline until the stepchild feels comfortable with your parental role.
*If your family includes "visiting" children understand that they usually feel strange and like outsiders in your neighborhood.

*It helps if they can have their own space in your home.

This can be a drawer or shelf for their personal possessions that no one else has.

Some place or space that is all their own is very helpful.
Include the "visiting" stepchildren in family chores and projects.

They will feel more connected to the group in this way.

Allow them to bring a friend with them occasionally to visit to help with the adjustment.
Because stepfamilies are born of loss, a mixture of feelings can show their selves quite often. These feelings include jealousy, rejection, guilt, anger, frustration, hurt and disappointment.

Seek understanding when these feelings arise.

Allow them to surface and release.

Empathize as much as possible.

Try to walk in their shoes and feel their feelings.
Children have a family history that can cause conflict in trying to blend together as a stepfamily. Develop new ways of coming together as a family and new traditions that are just the stepfamilies.
As a stepparent don't try to compete with the biological parent.

Instead work on creating a friendship built on