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How to Stop Complaining

Complaining, like all thought patterns, is not mere observation.

Complaining is a creative act.

The more you complain, the more you summon your creative energies to attract something to complain about.

Your complaints may seem fully justified, but realize that whenever you complain, you are placing your order for more of the same.

Complaining is not merely about the past.

Whenever you make a complaint, realize you are setting an intention — a goal — for the future.
Note that complaining is not the same thing as having a negative emotional reaction.

That first-response negative reaction is OK.

Complaining is the act of reinforcing what you don’t want and intending even more of it.

It’s the act of dwelling on the negative.
People who complain trap themselves in a reality that constantly gives them more to complain about.

Life keeps harshing on them. Their luck is below average. They never get any real breaks. Unfortunate circumstances, seemingly beyond their control, keep manifesting. It seems totally unfair, but it isn’t. The complainers are merely witnessing the fulfillment of their own requests. Every thought is an intention, and complainers habitually intend what they don’t want. So it makes perfect sense they live in a reality congruent with those thoughts. The complainer may tell you their reality is causing their complaints, but it’s more accurate to say their reality is reflecting their complaints.
Complaining is also addictive. The more you do it, even within your own mind, the more it becomes an ingrained habit and the harder it is to stop.
Complaining and the Law of Attraction
I’ve seen many a person claim to be using the Law of Attraction properly, holding only positive intentions and thinking predominantly about what they want to attract. Then after a few weeks of little or no results, they fire off an explosion of complaints:.
In practice you will see some intenders hold their intentions patiently for months and years, while complainers will usually give up within the first 30 days. Why? You might not like what I’m going to say, but the truth is that the complainers were predisposed to eventually give up.

Failure was their true background intention.
Your lifetime of thoughts acts like a resonating band of intention. That band’s overall signature determines what kind of life you live. A chronic complainer will manifest a predominantly negative life. A positive thinker will manifest a predominantly positive life.
Your thoughts/intentions are not time-bound. If you’re going to complain at some point in the future, that complaint will subtly affect you today.
The complainer seed
Here’s another way to think about this, one that might be a little easier to accept if you’re very attached to linear thinking. Consider that if something unfortunate happens to you, and you’re going to complain about it afterwards, then there must have been some kind of complainer seed within you in the first place… before that negative event took place. You must already have been the kind of person who’s predisposed to complain. And if that seed is there, you can bet the LoA is going to pick up on it.
Really positive people who are good at manifesting don’t complain. Even when things don’t go their way, they keep directing their thoughts towards the positive side. They expect that things will eventually go their way. They also take action to participate in the positive manifestation. Setbacks don’t make them throw in the towel and curse the LoA because they don’t harbor the complainer seed. They’re not going to be perfect about it, but this is their dominant pattern.
Assuming total responsibility
You see… the real solution to complaining is responsibility. You must say to the universe (and mean it), “I want to accept more responsibility for everything in my experience.”
Here are some examples of what I mean by accepting responsibility:
If I’m unhappy, it’s because I’m creating it.
If there’s a problem in the world that bothers me, I’m responsible for fixing it.
If someone is in need, I’m responsible for helping them.
If I want something, it’s up to me to achieve it.
If I want certain people in my life, I must attract and invite them to be with me.
If I don’t like my present circumstances, I must end them.
On the flip side, it may also help to take responsibility for all the good in your life. The good stuff didn’t just happen to you. You created it. Well done..

BE HAPPY...

ACCEPT WHAT IS..

PRESENCE...NOW

Every moment is a chance...

Every moment is a chance to turn it all around

~Vanilla Sky

It is hard to believe that a man is telling the truth when you know that you would lie if you were in his place.

~Henry Louis Mencken,

If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything.

~Mark Twain

Who lies for you will lie against you.

~Bosnian Proverb

No man has a good enough memory to make a successful liar.

~Abraham Lincoln

Make yourself an honest man, and then you may be sure there is one less rascal in the world.

~Thomas Carlyle

A half truth is a whole lie.

Dare to be true: nothing can need a lie:

Honesty is the rarest wealth anyone can possess!

~Josh Billings

The hardest tumble a man can make is to fall over his own bluff.

~Ambrose Bierce...ouch and does that hurt....lol

A lie has speed, but truth has endurance.

~Edgar J. Mohn

When you stretch the truth, watch out for the snapback.

~Bill Copeland

We tell lies when we are afraid... afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger.

~Tad Williams

Truth fears no questions. ~Unknown

Honesty is the first chapter of the book of wisdom.

~Thomas Jefferson

If you want to ruin the truth, stretch it.

~Author Unknown

Listen

How to be a good Listener!

There are few people who have good

listening skills. Listening to people can take practice, in a fast pace world where we are used to tuning into so many things at one time.

Things You’ll Need:

• Patience
• a willingness to listen to someone

Step1

Think about the other person and what they are trying to say to you. Be genuinely interested in hearing what is being said.

Step2

Let the person know you are hearing and understanding them by commenting. Whether you agree or disagree is not the issue. It is only about giving the person your full attention.

Step3

To show genuine interest, you must ask questions. Inquire about whatever the person is talking about. It is important to them, so be considerate and show interest

Tips & Warnings
Show interest in listening
Pay attention and ask questions or make comments
Be genuine
This will improve your relationships
Don't answer the phone while in mid conversation with someone.
Look at someone when they speak to you, not at the tv or computer.
Don't interrupt someone while they are still speaking.

If your listening...Your NOT talking....

Shhhh..........

Pure Silence
Silence, Space, Within, Inner Peace, Silêncio, Consciousness, Satori, Being, Awareness, Who am I, Emptiness, Non-Duality, Enlightenment, Spirit, Essence of Reality, Mystical Union, Buddha Mind, Silencio, Meditation, Truth, Dzogchen, Love, God, Allah, Nirvana, Void, Advaita Vedanta, I Am, One Taste, Contemplation, I am that I am, Silenzio, Eternity, Now, Samadhi, Nothingness, Tao, Divine Union, Nondual silence, Kingdom of Heaven, Transpersonal, Mysticism, Stillness, The Self, Silent Mind, 沈默
A gentle, loving, inner peace and silence is here and now in this moment. It has always been this way. It is always here. It is right here within you and all around you, a stillness, an apparent void, a seeming nothingness out of which everything arises, exists, and eventually returns.
You know this. You have felt this.

There is nothing more than this.

You are this.

This is truth.

This is not some esoteric spiritual jargon about some new age philosophy or any religion or belief. There is nothing here which is mystical. There are just these words and you and the silence within. This is real, now.

This silence is right here in you, every single moment of your life.

This pure silence contains you, your being-ness and yet the silence is your very being.

This silence allows the entire universe to be.

All existence, everything that is, all matter and energy, all thought is contained in this silence.

This pure silence is what some have called Truth, Infinity, Reality, Enlightenment, Nothingness, God, Great or Holy Spirit, The Now, True Self, I am, Consciousness and Love.

This silence is a mystery beyond mind, beyond what the human brain can fully comprehend. Like a beautiful diamond, we can only see a few facets at a time. This mystery is seemingly far beyond us-our capacity to understand, to know. And yet this is contained within our very selves, and this contains us as well.

The greatest wonder of this is that you and I, above all other life forms on this planet are able to be consciously aware of this reality, now.

Yes, you are aware of this, though perhaps you have not experienced this yet. Perhaps you have not realized this.

This awareness of ours, this consciousness of being, is the silence itself.

The silence is the very space of being.

In you, being has become aware of itself.

There is only this.

We have spent thousands of years denying what is more present to us than our very breath, our very heartbeat.

This silence permeates everything and is the allow-er of everything. The silence allows us to be and to be free.

There is only this.
You are this!
All that you need, all that you seek, all that you hope and long for is contained in this silence.
This web site may just help you to know this, to realize this and to live out of this silence.
All you need to do is stop and just be: Now!
There is only this:
Pure Silence
Welcome to YOU my friend

ChEvY...

STRONG

BEST FRIEND!

Father, Laborer, MAN,

betteR /other /worse (depends on the day)half....

Brother...Son...Cousin.. COMEDIAN..ENTERTAINER....LifeSaver.....

INDEPENDENT....MeaN...

STUBBORN.....SUCCESSFUL...

Energetic...Strong, Firm, Gentle, Dependable,

HONEST,

Excellent COOK ,

UnOrGaNiZeD....CRaZY...TERRITORIAL...

Natural Born Leader.........

Compatible....PlAyFuL........HEAVEN..ly...Family...Laughter,

Silly, Rapper....Dancer...SAVED...Found....Determined..

MOTIVATED...

PRANGSTER...no not Gangster....well sometimezzz........

BOSS....

lol....

(shh...I let him think he is!)

~Zion & Xavior's Daddy...

Experience Makes US BETTER.....

ONLY when WE LEARN from it...

p.s. he has my heart~

LET IT GO!

Something/Someone ever grab your focus and attention to where that is ALL YOU CAN THINK ABOUT? RUDE drivers tick me OFFor Someone say something that IRRITATES YOUR VERY SKIN.....Well Here are some tips for Letting IT Go!....
JUST LET IT GO! Letting Go
How To Let It Happen
"Just let go!" people advise. "I wish I knew how to let go," others complain, exasperated. Letting go never seems easy. That is because we usually approach letting go as something to do. We may know it is the opposite an undoing but that does not make it any easier.
We often to look outside for help, but our perfect teacher is our higher self, which already knows precisely what we need to let go of, and how to let it happen. Just below the threshold of consciousness, the quiet voice of our own inner knowing beckons to us, showing us the easiest, most direct way to return to our true nature, and find the peace and joy that we yearn for.
For thousands of years, the great sages, mystics and yogis have realized that to better access our inner guidance, the mind needs to become still. They have taught meditation as a way to quiet our thoughts and awaken to our true nature.:
Learn how to let go

Learn ways to calm your stress
Relaxation techniques can reduce negative responses to stress and help you enjoy a better quality of life. Explore relaxation techniques you can do on your own.
Relaxation techniques are a great way to help your quest for stress management. Relaxation isn't just about peace of mind or enjoying a hobby. Relaxation is a process that decreases the wear and tear of life's challenges on your mind and body.
Whether you have a lot of stress in your life or you've got it under control, you can benefit from learning relaxation techniques. Learning basic relaxation techniques isn't hard. Explore these simple relaxation techniques to get you started on de-stressing your life and improving your health.
The benefits of relaxation techniques
With so many things to do, relaxation techniques may take a back seat in your life. But that means you may miss out on the health benefits of relaxation.
Practicing relaxation techniques can improve how you physically respond to stress by:
Slowing your heart rate
Lowering blood pressure
Slowing your breathing rate
Reducing the need for oxygen
Increasing blood flow to major muscles
Reducing muscle tension
You may also gain these overall health and lifestyle benefits from relaxation techniques:
Fewer physical symptoms, such as headaches and back pain
Fewer emotional responses, such as anger and frustration
More energy
Improved concentration
Greater ability to handle problems
More efficiency in daily activities
Types of relaxation techniques
Although health professionals such as complementary and alternative medicine practitioners, doctors and psychotherapists can teach relaxation techniques, you can also learn some on your own. Relaxation techniques usually involve refocusing your attention to something calming and increasing awareness of your body.

It doesn't matter which technique you choose. What matters is that you try to practice relaxation regularly.
There are several main types of relaxation techniques, including:
Autogenic relaxation.

Autogenic means something that comes from within you. In this technique, you use both visual imagery and body awareness to reduce stress. You repeat words or suggestions in your mind to help you relax and reduce muscle tension. You may imagine a peaceful place and then focus on controlled, relaxing breathing, slowing your heart rate, or different physical sensations, such as relaxing each arm or leg one by one.
Progressive muscle relaxation.

In this technique, you focus on slowly tensing and then relaxing each muscle group. This helps you focus on the difference between muscle tension and relaxation, and you become more aware of physical sensations. You may choose to start by tensing and relaxing the muscles in your toes and progressively working your way up to your neck and head. Tense your muscles for at least five seconds and then relax for 30 seconds, and repeat.
Visualization.

In this technique, you form mental images to take a visual journey to a peaceful, calming place or situation. Try to use as many senses as you can, including smells, sights, sounds and textures. If you imagine relaxing at the ocean, for instance, think about the warmth of the sun, the sound of crashing waves, the feel of the grains of sand and the smell of salt water. You may want to close your eyes, sit in a quiet spot and loosen any tight clothing.
Other relaxation techniques include those you may be more familiar with, such as:
Yoga
Tai chi
Music
Exercise
Meditation
Hypnosis
Massage

Relax the mind
Experience the present moment
Distinguish the inner voice from that of the ego
Access the wisdom of your higher self


there is a HUGE WORLD...

LET it GO!

What Is Your Dream IQ?
What is the average amount of dreams a person usually has in one night?
Why don't I have dreams?
Why do some dreams keep repeating themselves?
Is it possible to die in your dreams?
Find the answers in our

Frequently Asked Questions.

How To Lucid Dream And Have Out Of Body Experiences.
Click Here!

Dreams is defined in Webster's Dictionary as a "sequence of sensations, images, thoughts, etc., passing through a sleeping person's mind" .

Dreams have been a topic of study dating back to 4000 B.C. One may say that dreams have been around as long as the first civilization came to be and are just a normal part of human existence.
In our dreams, we can go anywhere, we can be anybody, and we can do anything. When we dream, we are like passengers on a moving train, unable to control our actions and choose surroundings. We let our mind take over. Sometimes, dreams can be understood in the the context of repressed thoughts. Dreaming serves as an outlet for those thoughts and impulses we repress during the day. When we go to sleep at night and slip into our dream state, we feel liberated and behave and act in a manner that we do not allow ourselves in our waking life.
Visions and ideas can come from your dreams. Authors, screenwriters and poets turn to their dreams for stories. Artists and musicians explore dreams for their inspiration. Dreams can help us find solutions to our daily problems and see things from a different perspective.
In this section, you will find a vast array of information on dreams, from its early beginnings, type of dreams, how to remember your dreams, babies and dreams, and much more. Hopefully, you will learn some interesting things about dreams.

Blonde Joke

THE FOURTH OF JULY...WHAT...WHEN...I MISSED IT....CRAP....I SLEPT THROUGH IT....FIREWORKS....Wake up...Here is your medicine......i'll take care of Zion (igotsagoodMAN)...you just sleep.....102* temp....Angel......are you ok.....???

YUP...but WHY................

when I do get Sick ........which is not very often...

does it happen on the WEEKEND????WHY? so i'm good now...back up and running....

Magic Mirror
AskMen.com

Legend has it that there is a bar in New York where, in the ladies' room there is a very special mirror.

If one stands in front of the mirror and tells the truth, one wish is granted.

However, if one tells a lie then with a “POOF!” they are instantly swallowed up by the mirror, never to be seen again.

So, a redhead of questionable beauty walks into the ladies' room and stands before the mirror and says, "I think I'm the most beautiful woman in the world." “POOF!” The mirror swallows her whole.

Next, a rather large brunette stands before the mirror and says, "I think I'm the sexiest woman alive." “POOF!” The mirror swallows her too.

Then an absolutely gorgeous blonde comes in and stands before the mirror and says, "I think... " “POOF!”

How to Go Green
Simple tips that everyone can apply to their lives to help protect the environment and save money at the same time. Let's "Go Green!"
Step1

Lights out! Turn off your lights and televisions when you leave a room. .
Step2

Start recycling plastic bottles instead of just throwing them away. You can also recycle paper, like newspapers. Always make sure you recycle cans and glass bottles also. Some states give you your 10 cent deposit back for them.
Step3

Reduce emissions from your automobile by tuning up your car, inflating your tires, and taking it easy on the brake and gas. Check out my other articles to find out how to reduce automobile emissions even more so.

Step4

You can change all of your regular incandescent light bulbs with a compact fluorescent light bulb which are more efficient.
Step5

Move your thermostat up 2 degrees in the summer and down 2 degrees in the winter. You can save 2,000 pounds of carbon dioxide each year.

READ MORE

iT's FrIdAy!

How to Throw a Fourth of July Barbecue

by eHow Holidays & Celebrations Editor

What better way to enjoy the Fourth of July than a festive barbecue? So break out the watermelon, shuck the corn on the cob and fire up coals to celebrate Independence Day in style.
Related Articles

How to Prepare Coals for a Barbecue
How to Plan a Special-Event Party
How to Properly Display an American Flag
How to Plan Ahead for a Low-Stress Holiday

What else can you do to improve your self confidence?
There are so many sources of self help!
Use any tools available to you to improve your performance. Tools could be books, courses, attending seminars or researching the internet. Try using a journal to plot your successes as they occur. You can learn to become confident I promise - so start today!
What is your biggest obstacle to more self confidence?
Your thinking. Negative thinking to be exact. If you always think negatively you will be more easily put off by what happens to you or by what others tell you. Please Check this page for how to end negative thoughts and I'm sure that if you follow this advice your life will be much more enjoyable!
Do you have a Problem with Self Consciousness?
This problem can stop you dead in your tracks and cause you to panic. Self consciousness will prevent you from being confident and it is so important to beat this problem learn more about self consciousness here.

Learn how to develop your self confidence by following the tips from this site and the Free Self Confidence Course and notice the small differences as they happen. Persevere and don't expect everything at once. Beating low self esteem is a wonderful thing, and it's much easier than you'd imagine.

Hope Everyone has a BLESSED Weekend....BE YOU!~Angel

Look Thinner Instantly

you can look thinner instantly just by changing your wardrobe through colors, lines, and fabrics. when you make some of the following changes you will look at least 10 pounds thinner instantly!
One color, one tone, from head to toe – elongates the body and makes you look taller and slimmer. Wear pants, and skirts in the same color family. The deeper the color the more slimming. Includes hose and shoes – match to skirt or pants or go darker. No sharp contrast. Dress in one color – dark outer silhouette
Vertical lines, narrow stripes, narrow pin stripe all have a slimming affect. Vertical seaming – Princess style or wrap dress are good. Vertical stitching.
V neck lines. A deep V neckline is slimming. Create a deep v-neck by unbuttoning the first few buttons. A deep V is best and it should be narrow.
· Long vest with v-neck and pointed bottom especially below the hip vest are good.
Wrap dresses and wrap blouses. Are very slimming. Wrap around Shaw collar items are great.
Slim skirts – with soft pleats at the waist create a slim line. A-line skirts and dresses. Slit at sides or on one side. Front slit overlap. Wear slim skirts on the short side but not boxy looking. Avoid pleats unless Skirts with sewn down pleats, tucks or some flat gathering. Length mid knee or just below knee is ideal.
Pants with front pleats that lie flat are best for protruding stomachs. No zipper in the front unless they have front pleats. Side closed pants should have front pleats or gathers. Tapered pants at bottom or straight leg.
Verticals on verticals is very slimming.
Shoulder lines on the shoulders not falling off the shoulder. Wear tailored set in sleeves. No shoulder pads unless sloping shoulders or small shoulders. Basic colors for me are Black, Gray and Navy. Have major pieces like pants, jackets and skirts in these colors.

Self confidence tips to help you now!

Look for a model (someone who has self confidence) and learn from them. What is it they do that makes them confident, how do they act?
Focus on your achievements rather than your failures. If you do find yourself thinking about how you failed then look at what you managed to do right and how you could correct what you did next time.
Learn how to feel good about yourself
Act as if you were self confident! You will feel more confident.
Focus on who you are and what you like about yourself. Why do your friends like you?
Prepare thoroughly for any task so that you can be sure you are ready.
Work on any skills you need to do what you want, you can never be overtrained or over skilled for any challenge in life.
Work on your relaxation skills
Always smile and stand up straight
Set reachable goals for yourself and break difficult tasks into smaller steps
Reward yourself when you succeed no matter how small the achievement
Finally, I advise you not to be too competitive or compare yourself with others.

Be yourself and accept that life

is not a race against others but your self confidence depends on you and your personal needs.

The 5 Foundations of Open Communication
Understanding Perceptions,

Belief Systems,

Core Operating Systems and

Blind Spots Increasing Trust
Staying Open to Learn
Taking Self-Responsibility

The 4 Basic Communication Tools
Reflective Listening
Giving Feedback Clearly
Receiving Feedback Non-Defensively
Communicating a Task
Families are crucial in the development of human competence and character.

Recent research tells us that the family's influence is even greater than we have imagined. Families play a major role in how well children do in school, how well they perform on the job as adults and how well they contribute to society in general.

Families have the first and foremost influence on our development.
Research indicates that many problems of individuals and society are related to dysfunctional family relationships. For instance,

early teen sexual acting out,

youth suicide,

teen pregnancy,

runaways,

substance abuse,

childhood and adolescent depression,

child abuse and neglect,

family violence,

and civil unrest are known to be aggravated by problems in the family.
What makes families strong?

Researchers have worked hard to answer this question and agree that strong, healthy families have nine traits in common (Krysan, Moore, & Zill, 1990). These traits have been found in families of different types, races, social backgrounds, nationalities, and religious beliefs.
The 8 traits are:
caring and appreciation
time together
encouragement
commitment
communication
cope with change
spirituality
community and family ties .

Love You first!

i believe in order to give anything....I have to take care of ME first....i know it sounds quite selfish (oldschool thinking) BUT...I enjoy taking care of ME...I LOVE to FEEL good about myself...i LOVE to look at my list of things...i accomplished...i LOVE spending time by myself....listening to nature...i LOVE hot showers....i love starring into Chevelle, Xavior and Zion's eyes...i love Chevelle's cooking.... i love to sleep... i LOVE doiing my hair differently... i LOVE wearing different perfumes....... i LOVE clothes...they way they feel on my body... i LOVE MUSIC.....I LOVE CHOCALATE.... I LOVE makeup....to enhance my beauty.....i LOVE to feel centered and balanced.... I like to offer others....Peace....Security...Friendliness... with an honest PRESENCE...with a SINCERE SMILE... In my attempts to discover ...i have learned many lessons about MYSELF...about my relationship with others....about LIFE....and I have learned to take care of ANGEL first...I have made numerous choices that is getting me closer to my goal... I think i finally found it though...Sometimes information is right under your nose and can't even see it...I mean come on...Click Here! .................

it all boils DOWN to WHO has the RIGHT Information?....RIGHT!?!?!?!?!?

Stop Talking!

Wake up Xavior.....

Good MORNING honey......

Come On......

I'm taking you to your daddy's house.....

Did you have a good nights sleep...

Go Get your shoes....

Can i have a hug.....

As he was slowly walking away from me to get his shoes.....he turned around looked at me with his sleepy beautiful green eyes and said.....so sheepishly

STOP TALKING

I laughed...and nodded my head.....

and Stopped Talking....

what if?

So i went to the church i was raised in yesterday.......interesting......am i from this planet?? cause I JUST DON'T Get the whole RELIGIOUS thing....What if we were to leave church and life would end....who knows what happens? i mean we can reference to the bible...but NOBODY knows what happens after death.....isn't it ALL JUST SPECULATION..what one man/woman experience is????

ANYWAY....FEAR of the WHAT IF....WHAT IF I DON'T GO to CHURCH? WHAT IF....I DON'T DO THIS....what if the world comes to an end? will GOD still love me? is HIS love CONDITIONAL? IF not!!!! why be CONTROLLED BY FEAR AND GUILT? the Point continues to cirle me...leaving me confused.....I want to be the Mother that encourages "STEPPING OUTSIDE THAT LITTLE BOX" i want Zion to explore the "thought" of God in an environment filled with LOVE, HOPE, PEACE and Joy....Is that Possible? Being used to function by "what others (suggest, encourage, brain-wash)....I am left sometimes....Baffled....I have come to the conslusion for my daughter's sake....to learn....to grow...to educate...to be open minded....to be silent.....to let go..to TRUST.....Trust that GOD is ever always present......all that other stuff.........is IRRELiVant....

oh my gosh!

i never knew...i could love someone so much....

sometimes i feel like i could

BURST

with HAPPYNESS..